Finding treasure in the darkest of places…

Dear One,

It is in depths of caves, in the bottoms of oceans or far beneath the soil that we find the greatest treasure.

If you find yourself facing circumstances that feel like an insurmountable obstacle, like everywhere you turn there are more questions than answers; if you can’t see the end of the darkness and have no idea how or when you will come upon light…know that you are exactly where you need to be to find your greatest treasure.

The only invitation in these moments is to allow yourself to feel it all, to feel yourself held as you hold the part of yourself that is terrified of the dark. It is in your surrender that you discover the wellspring within you, that you discover the power that you have long sought. It is in these unknown spaces in which you have diverged from the usual path, when you feel lost and alone that you open yourself for a new thought.

You might even get curious, “Why would I create this for myself? What gift is now being revealed to me?”

When you understand that all is unfolding for you, and that you always have the power to create good, you make room within you to find the treasure in the darkest of places.

If you feel stuck and in despair…you are right where you need to be. Feel it all and then, know: things are about to get better than you can even imagine.

Taking deep breaths and feeling it all with you.

🙏🏼

Melissa

The wisdom present in this Solar Eclipse in Cancer…

Dear One,

Tonight’s solar eclipse in Cancer is here to ground us in this truth: Our softness is our strength. Our compassion is our greatest treasure.

If you are like me and those close to me, you have already experienced great emotion moving through you this past week. Any emotions that have been shoved into the dark recesses of your being are coming forth for you to see them, love them, embrace them so that they can help you see that there is not a single aspect of your being that is unworthy of love. Shame has no place in your being, it’s time to speak the truth, feel it all and set yourself free.

As Pluto in Capricorn continues to churn up and breakdown all of the patriarchal structures and conditioning that no longer serves us, this super moon in Cancer is showing us another way…a path that glorifies our feeling nature as the gift that it is, that embraces pleasure for its own sake, celebrates the power of sacred connection, of intuition, and flowing to the rhythm of that life force beating your heart and guiding you in all ways.

This solar eclipse might have you feeling like you’ve been plunged into the deep while you’re just learning to swim…and never fear, Dear Heart. Your only job here and now is to meet yourself with utmost gentleness as you discover your inherent ability to navigate the waters of your emotion. Your feelings have always been guiding you home and now, it is time to listen.

There is an invitation here to mother the scared child within you, the one who doesn’t know it’s worthy of love; to see yourself through the unconditional eyes of a mother’s love for her child. There is an invitation to get so acquainted with your inner needs so that you know how to build the foundation for your own security. That security has never existed outside of you…it cannot be built or achieved as the patriarchy would have us think…it has always existed in your ability to listen to and care for yourself. It is from there that the generous gift that you are flows out to the world around you…and any outward accolade is simply a product of aligning with true abundance.

It is in embracing every aspect of yourself, shedding all layers of the outworn paradigm that has you thinking there’s something wrong with the parts that you cannot fit in a box, it is in seeing that all you have hidden away or tried to “improve” are the truths and gifts that we most need now on this planet. You’ve always had the key to abundance, the key to love, the key to success, the key to prosperity. It is in your ability to embrace every aspect of your being.

So I invite you to begin today with treating yourself with utmost gentleness and knowing that every human act is simply an attempt to meet needs…we are each doing the best that we can and deep down there is a part of each of us all longing to be met with love, compassion, understanding, to be seen as all that we are. Look with those eyes in the days ahead and revel in the beauty and perfection that you find.

I love you so much!!!

Melissa

P.S. Join me tonight for a Facebook Live Solar Eclipse Sacred Circle at 8pm EST as I share deeper insight and hold space as you process all that you are discovering at this time. 🌔

Photo Credit: Frank Sommers & Anonymous 2nd grade class photographer 😉

What are the eclipses awakening in you?

At the foundation of all the self-love coaching that I do is a powerful session spent with your Astrological birth chart.

We find ourselves in the midst of eclipse season—a powerful time of initiation and transformation that can have us feeling stirred up and a bit tossed around as we shed the old and are thrust into the new. I’m a Soul Purpose Astrologer and brilliant at helping you harness the wisdom of your birth chart to consciously align with your highest fulfillment…and also, to help you understand the areas of life that you are now being called to grow and expand with this next eclipse cycle.

My work is like a shortcut into seeing clearly where you unconsciously stop yourself and the misconceptions that you hold that block fulfillment in certain areas of your life…and it is also a shortcut into seeing what you are here to cultivate within yourself in order to live the life that you most desire. Connecting that wisdom with knowing, specifically, the lessons being brought to you by the current, powerful transformative eclipse portal we find ourselves in is a recipe for major breakthrough and taking effortless leaps toward fulfilling your desires.

What is the great adventure meant for your soul? What fears are you ready to transform and what path are you called to embrace on this journey of discovering and loving ALL of who you are?

Melissa

P.S. I offer a complimentary discovery call so that I can uncover your deeper needs, right now and we can get clear if we’re a right fit. Feel free to use my contact form to send me a message and we’ll talk. <3

For those who long to be chosen…

2 years ago at this time I was one day away from meeting and falling for someone…the last person I would entangle with before meeting my life partner.

I was still afraid to fully claim & own my desires for fear of asking “too much.” I was doing a lot of wishing and hoping and not yet understanding how to fully and consciously create from a clear and grounded place within myself. I still thought that I needed to learn to be “more self-reliant/independent” and less “needy.” I was a bundle of anxiety for the entire 2 months of that relationship dance. I was still playing the waiting game & hoping to be “chosen.”

I’m so grateful for that time that was so intense because after that I refused to suffer any longer for the sake of “love.” I started communicating with the divine daily. I got clear about what I wanted. Through some powerful, straightforward guidance I got that I didn’t need to learn how to stop feeling certain things or denying myself in order to become “stronger.” I fully understood that there is no such thing as a “needy” person or “too much.” I got that it’s MY JOB to choose me AND to choose my partner and that to love myself is to know what conditions support my blossoming and to ensure that I’m planted in those conditions.

I had no idea at this time 2 years ago the ride I was about to step onto and how it would be one of the most intense, excruciating and greatest gifts I could receive. In that time, I understood what it is to truly be a queen.

I write this today for those of you who get anxious, consumed & distracted when you are dating and relating, for those of you who tip-toe around what you feel and really want, who wonder if on some level you really are asking “too much” and need to learn how to “chill the f*ck out.” I write this for the self-doubters who deeply long for healthy, loving committed partnership. I write this for you who long to be chosen. I write this for you because I see you and know what your path has been like, the pain that you feel…and I know the way out.

I had already been on a lifelong journey of growth and relationship Mastery before I got those final lessons…and what I didn’t know at this time 2 years ago is that I was just 4 months away from meeting the man I would choose to spend the rest of my life with…and that I would never feel so “chosen” in my life.

Standing for your having it ALL.

Melissa

P.S. I’m here to be your guide and mentor. If you wanna know how the heck you heal these patterns and how you, too, can fully live into the fulfillment of your desire for partnership, send me a message via my contact form and we will set up a conversation about how I can help.

The most important question to ask when dating/relating…

When it comes to dating, there is no “right” way for you or the other person to act, no such thing as “too much,” no such thing as “too fast” or “too slow.” All of this trying to get it right or wondering if something is acceptable or normal has you in your head (the land of ego safety, control and approval games) and ignoring how you actually FEEL.

The most important question that you need to be asking is: “How do I feel?”

Your feelings are sacred guides pointing to your own precious needs and values. If you’re feeling off—anxious, insecure, guarded, confused, frustrated, etc.—this is an indicator that you have some needs that aren’t being fulfilled completely in this situation. When you feel good, it’s because you’re aligning with what you need and value.

When feeling off in a relating/dating situation…the question is never whether or not you should be feeling what you’re feeling. Your feelings cannot be wrong (they are FOR YOU, after all). The question is: “What are these feelings telling me that I most need and desire?”

This is the only authority you ever need to follow.

Happy dating & relating, lovelies!

❤️Melissa

P.S. If you want to know how to navigate the world of your feelings like a ninja, to confidently choose yourself no matter what and create thriving relationships, I have openings for complimentary self-love activation calls (new clients only) in the next couple of weeks. Send an email via my contact form to grab your spot on my calendar.