I used to think there was something wrong with me…

For years, I thought that there was something wrong with me, that I was never quite good enough. Radiant and even appearing confident on the outside, yet on the inside, I was at war with myself. 

It impacted my romantic relationships, my business, my friendships, my relationship to my body, my finances. 

“I just need to learn how to not get so anxious when I first start dating someone.” 
“I need to learn how to not get so attached and to feel less intensely.” 
“I need to learn how to ‘toughen up.'”
“I need to learn how to talk less and listen more.” 

In my work it was:

“What did I do wrong to cause that client not to hire me?”
“I need to have a bigger email list; I need to learn FB ads; I need to learn, need to learn, need to learn…” 

When I looked in the mirror or got dressed in the morning, it was always, “How does my stomach look today?” and then disappointment that it wasn’t flatter. 

There was always something missing, lacking, too much or not enough. There was always something to improve or “get right.” 

And it was exhausting and had me perpetually spinning on a hamster wheel, never getting to “good enough.” And it blocked me from what I most desire: To be loved exactly as I am. To be successful exactly as I am. To be at peace exactly as I am. 

I was trapped in a life-long cycle of people-pleasing, and the anxiety of trying to get it right. I was often navigating the excruciating pain of heartbreak because “once again, I got it wrong.”

I certainly discovered how tremendously strong and capable that I am to endure tons of pain and get back up again…yet I was clueless about pleasure.

And as it turns out, when you learn to see yourself through the eyes of love, when you learn how to cherish yourself and THEN commit to your own pleasure in every moment, you can literally have whatever you want. 

I know that now. 

It took a lot of healing and support to get to this place where I can easily flip the internal switch within me toward seeing my wholeness and perfection and to simply be exploring what would be most pleasurable for me. I would love to help you flip that switch, too.

Click here to apply to work with me and we’ll explore how a Sacred Self-Love Mentorship with me will change your life.

You Do Not NEED to Suffer in Order to Grow…

Dear One,

You do not NEED to suffer in order to grow. In fact, it is through sweetness that you truly thrive.

Yes, Life will offer up its challenges–just like the wind strengthens the trunk of a tree so that it is able to rise toward the sky, life will bring the needed elements to strengthen you and align you with the power you possess to create new worlds.

And yet, you need not suffer. When you choose to make peace with what life brings, and turn your attention toward that which is most pleasurable for you moment by moment, you fertilize the soil for your inevitable expansion. When you focus on the needs underneath the fear and anxiety and commit to meeting those needs, you will find yourself flourishing in a state of peace.

It is not noble to choose the “hard” path. To be in the relationship that takes constant “work.” To put in the long hours at work when you truly desire to rest. To say yes for the sake of being “good” rather than saying no in honor of your freedom.

You will grow. This is what life does in its ever-reaching movement toward the light. Life is leading itself, so you can let go of the effort. Choose relationships that simply feel good, effortlessly. Choose to take actions that simply flow and that fulfill you. Make pleasure your first priority and like a tree with proper water and nutrients, you will flourish and rise.

So I ask: What would be most pleasurable for you in this moment? I invite you to go do that, Dear One, and open yourself fully for what unfolds.

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©2016 Melissa Simonson